As chronicled in an earlier post , death has visited my family often in October. (See “The gift of remembrance” in Archives, October 2014) Three of my four grandparents, a beloved aunt, a cherished uncle – all six passed away during the tenth month of different years.
This fall finds us bereaved once again, as son-in-law Justin’s grandfather completed his earthly sojourn two weeks ago. His memorial service was a celebration of a life well-lived, a race faithfully run, a servant safely Home. As Justin and his brother and cousin shared memories of their grandfather, it was clear he made a lasting, positive impact on their lives.
Though their memories won’t be as clear or numerous, “Papa” touched the lives of the next generation as well. Since his great-grandfather’s passing, Joshua has comforted himself and others with truth: “He’s not sick anymore. He’s in heaven!”; “In heaven, guess what? You can’t die again! Papa is there waiting for us!”; and, possibly my favorite, “Papa doesn’t have to pray anymore. He can just walk right up and talk to Jesus!”
Oh the beauty and simplicity of child-like faith, the kind of faith Jesus commended, the kind we’re told to pass on to our offspring. It’s apparent Papa followed that mandate, modeling a godly walk for his children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren. Indeed, it is the greatest legacy any of us can bestow, the greatest joy to know our children are walking in the truth.
Nonetheless, we grieve our loss when a loved one is called Home. Though we’re assured the separation is temporary, their departure leaves a silence, an empty spot, that only their voice, their presence can fill. Someone asked me recently if I would wish Ray back. I hesitated. I know the spiritually-correct answer. How could I be so selfish as to ask him to return from Paradise? Yet, I think back over all we’ve experienced and endured without him over the past 20 years and, in my frail humanity, I wish, oh-so-much, that he’d been here – to watch his daughters grow into amazing young women, to play with his grandchildren, to tend our garden with me.
The One who records our tears on his scroll understands. Moments before He called Lazarus from the tomb, even knowing his Father would hear his plea to raise his friend, Jesus wept. Being full of compassion, He shared the sisters’ sorrow and He shares ours.
But unlike our human friends who come alongside us with sincere condolences and ministrations in our times of need, Jesus can also meet our deepest need, the need to be reconciled to God. Our Savior took our sins upon himself and paid our penalty so we may joyfully proclaim, “Death is not the end, beloved. For the believer it is the most glorious beginning!”
As you might imagine, whenever I attend a funeral or memorial service, I think back to Ray’s services. My ability to hold my emotions in check varies. I did reasonably well last week until the final song, “Twelfth of Never”, requested by Justin’s grandmother. While strains of the Johnny Mathis classic filled the church, tears trickled, then streamed from my eyes as I was reminded love never dies.
During Ray’s graveside service, one of the pastors told Mary and Jessie their lives would be blessed by having had a godly father even though he was with them for a relatively short time. I’m thankful Ray loved us so well that we continue to feel his love, thankful for his saving faith that guarantees we’ll see him again.
I recently read a thought-provoking statement: “We are all under sentence of death; we are all terminal cases.” Sometimes death comes quickly, unexpectedly, as with Ray’s passing. At other times it’s preceded by a long, arduous illness. Regardless of its manner, it is a certainty. The author went on to say, “For the believer, the time of death becomes far less daunting a factor when seen in the light of eternity. Although death remains a formidable opponent, it is, from another perspective, the portal through which we pass to consummated life. We pass through death, and death dies. And the more a Christian lives in the consciousness of God’s presence here, the easier it is to anticipate the unqualified delight that will be experienced in God’s presence there.” A most glorious beginning indeed!
Lord, we are like a mist. Please teach us to number our days aright, knowing You wrote them all in your book before even one came to be. Help us to fix our eyes on things above, to store up an imperishable treasure. And may we leave a legacy of love and faith like the steadfast witnesses who have gone before us.
 2 Timothy 4:7-8
 Jesus welcoming the children is recounted in three of the four gospels: Matthew 19:13-15; Mark 10:13-16; Luke 18:15-17.
 Deuteronomy 6:6-7; Deuteronomy 11:18-19.
 3 John 3-5
 Psalm 16:11; 2 Corinthians 5:1-6
 Psalm 56:8
 John 11:1-43
 Isaiah 53:4-6
 Rev. Todd Allen made this statement during Ray’s funeral service, April 24, 1997. I’ve thought of it many times since.
 1 Corinthians 13:1-13
 John 3:16; John 11:25-27
 D.A. Carson, “Be Still, My Soul, Embracing God’s Purpose & Provision in Suffering”, Wheaton, IL; Nancy Guthrie/Crossway, 2010; p 117.
 Romans 5:12
 D.A. Carson, Ibid
 James 4:13-15
 Psalm 90:12
 Psalm 139:16
 2 Corinthians 4:17-18
 Matthew 6:19-21
 Hebrews 11; Hebrews 12:1-3